"I HATED, LOATHED, and VEHEMENTLY DISLIKED the love interest and the way significant others were treated, especially the aggressive blonde one.... Reasons that were never, ever given save for BECAUSE IT IS SO! FEEL THE AUTHORIAL FIAT!)"
I was able to stomach this (and many other, similar things) by justifying it away as an issue of perspective.

"Okay, lady werewolves aren't REALLY inherently less than the male ones, that's just the pack applying their b.s. human social rules that are made even worse by the elders who come from a history with worse views of women AND have the strength to back up whatever the hell they want"

"Okay, Mercy only thinks she's an up-starter and troublemaker despite actually being really subservient to everyone because that's been drilled into her head since childhood."

"Okay, the book isn't glorifying abusive relationships, Mercy just thinks this way because of her upbringing"

"Wait, what? Female werewolves are expected to be raped if they don't have a mate? Even the children?... Maybe that's just Honey's experience"

I could do that until the author just came out and said in the book (the equivalent of) "LOL, NOPE! THIS IS THE WAY!" with the B.S. *magical obedience* thing that Adam could do from out of no where.

I'm not even going to BEGIN to get into the race relations of EVERY WEREWOLF being stronger and more dominant than the pesky Native shapechanger.