I remember having similar problems with moon called when I read it. I kept reading the series though and I actually enjoyed them, especially after the third one (the first two were a bit ordinary). Its been a few years now, but I do remember several really terrible things being depicted as actually terrible, and they had long lasting consequences for Mercy which I felt was realistic and well handled (I don't want to add spoilers in case you continue on with the series).
I think its really hard to write about werewolves (especially those with a dominance hierarchy) and not tread all over sexual stereotypes. I'd like to see it done right though :)