It made me uncomfortable to agree with this initially, because it seems like one of those "it's the woman's fault for not protecting herself!" versus the man's fault for being an ass, but then I remembered this isn't real life, this was something written by an author, specifically one with some very screwed up views on such things, and that actually does make sense.
I think the difference for me between this and RL is that RL has a ginormous number of factors that are controlled by outside forces that the victim has no hope of controlling. And in RL, stalking often seems to end in death for the victim of it, sometimes despite the measures mentioned in my original response.
Anita, by contrast, is LITERALLY a god within her own world. LKH won't hurt her, kill her/her special 'loves' or even let her have a bad day. Nothing happens that Anita doesn't want to have happen... including being stalked by JC. If this were a different series, where the main character could be hurt/killed, JC would've been menacing and I'd cut him a lot less slack. (I'd probably have REALLY enjoyed him as a character, though.) But in this one, Anita secretly wants to go out to posh restaurants with JC, be photographed together, and rule his life with an iron fist. She doesn't want to be a monster-dater b/c at the beginning of the series she looks down on people who date monsters, see her treatment of Monica. JC, who seems to know Anita at least as well as she knows herself, provides her with a convenient excuse for why she "has to" do the things that she wants to do anyway - date him, be promiscuous, rape people, crush their free will so that they can never leave her... unlike that college boyfriend she dredges out from time to time. (Honestly, I think her "Mexican-ness" has nothing to do with it. He just looked into the face of evil during a moment of vulnerability, knew it for what it was, and ran for it.) Here, stalking ends in Romance and True Wuv just like Anita always wanted it to.
So I think it's fair to be judgy of Anita's 'victim-ness' in regards to some situations. (But dude, she was totally a victim in the shower-with-Micah scene. I won't fault her for that.)
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I think the difference for me between this and RL is that RL has a ginormous number of factors that are controlled by outside forces that the victim has no hope of controlling. And in RL, stalking often seems to end in death for the victim of it, sometimes despite the measures mentioned in my original response.
Anita, by contrast, is LITERALLY a god within her own world. LKH won't hurt her, kill her/her special 'loves' or even let her have a bad day. Nothing happens that Anita doesn't want to have happen... including being stalked by JC. If this were a different series, where the main character could be hurt/killed, JC would've been menacing and I'd cut him a lot less slack. (I'd probably have REALLY enjoyed him as a character, though.) But in this one, Anita secretly wants to go out to posh restaurants with JC, be photographed together, and rule his life with an iron fist. She doesn't want to be a monster-dater b/c at the beginning of the series she looks down on people who date monsters, see her treatment of Monica. JC, who seems to know Anita at least as well as she knows herself, provides her with a convenient excuse for why she "has to" do the things that she wants to do anyway - date him, be promiscuous, rape people, crush their free will so that they can never leave her... unlike that college boyfriend she dredges out from time to time. (Honestly, I think her "Mexican-ness" has nothing to do with it. He just looked into the face of evil during a moment of vulnerability, knew it for what it was, and ran for it.) Here, stalking ends in Romance and True Wuv just like Anita always wanted it to.
So I think it's fair to be judgy of Anita's 'victim-ness' in regards to some situations. (But dude, she was totally a victim in the shower-with-Micah scene. I won't fault her for that.)