Okay, trying not to go off capslock deep-end here, but...I hate, hate, HATE the idea that there is some hierarchy of abuse and trauma, that you're only allowed to be traumatized so much by something, etc.

Gah, yes. Tell me about it. I've got a laundry list of traumas going all the way back to childhood, and all sorts of dysfunctions resulting from them. But no, those are just "hurt feelings" and not worth discussing, because I was never (seriously) physically hurt, and I should be ashamed, ashamed of even thinking they're worth dwelling on when others have it so much worse. So not only am I damaged, I need to feel guilty about being damaged, too.

So yeah, fuck that shit.