Women are socialized to keep quiet, get along, put themselves last, do what makes other people happy, etc., none of which is conducive to talking about one's emotions. Yup. We hear "women are emotional" all the time...so every time a woman shows emotions (or emotions someone doesn't like, at least) that card gets played against us, and we learn to keep 'em shut up more so as not to be seen as a "crazy emotional woman". It's the same thing with the "women talk more than men" thing--there was some study I read that monitored conversations and even though women were actually talking less than men, they were viewed as talking more. So likewise, we tend to talk less to avoid being seen as the "chatty woman" stereotype. It's some really interesting (and saddening) self-policing stuff.
How does she have lines around her mouth in the first place? She also notes in this same chapter that she looks younger than she actually is...so she looks LESS than thirty, yet has lines? Kind of like how she's very curvy and has lots of hard lean muscle but is still delicate and doll-like and thin, I guess.
Those vampires have families too That's an excellent point, especially since it's noted that most of these vampires have only been dead around 20 years or less. Their original human families are most likely alive and well and in contact with them. And your mistress example is spot on too.
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Yup. We hear "women are emotional" all the time...so every time a woman shows emotions (or emotions someone doesn't like, at least) that card gets played against us, and we learn to keep 'em shut up more so as not to be seen as a "crazy emotional woman". It's the same thing with the "women talk more than men" thing--there was some study I read that monitored conversations and even though women were actually talking less than men, they were viewed as talking more. So likewise, we tend to talk less to avoid being seen as the "chatty woman" stereotype. It's some really interesting (and saddening) self-policing stuff.
How does she have lines around her mouth in the first place?
She also notes in this same chapter that she looks younger than she actually is...so she looks LESS than thirty, yet has lines? Kind of like how she's very curvy and has lots of hard lean muscle but is still delicate and doll-like and thin, I guess.
Those vampires have families too
That's an excellent point, especially since it's noted that most of these vampires have only been dead around 20 years or less. Their original human families are most likely alive and well and in contact with them. And your mistress example is spot on too.